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Do Birds Mourn? How You Can Help Your Grieving Bird Recover

Feeling sad? Your pet bird may be mourning too! Learn how to recognize the signs and help your feathered friend recover with our latest blog post. #BirdLovers

By Diane Burroughs

Revised 3/11/2023

Do birds mourn and grieve when a fellow bird or family member passes away? It’s a question that many bird owners find themselves asking when their beloved pet dies. While there is no definitive answer, recent studies suggest that some birds do indeed experience grief when they lose a companion. In this blog post, we will discuss the ways in which birds may grieve, as well as how you can help your grieving bird recover. 

What is Mourning in Birds?

Mourning in birds is a natural, emotional response to the loss of an important family member or close companion. Birds are highly social creatures, forming strong bonds with their family members, companions, and flock mates. These strong, survival bonds result in deep pain when the bond is lost. This type of grief is known as avian mourning.  

Birds have evolved to form tight family units and highly organized flocks for protection from predators. This instinctive behavior makes them "flock animals," who benefit from the protection and companionship of the group. It is this evolutionary instinct that helps explain why flock animals can become so emotionally attached to one another.  

In the wild, birds may suffer a traumatic experience when a mate dies or is taken away. Domestic birds may become distressed when someone leaves the family home or when another bird dies or is rehomed. When mourning occurs, birds can show a range of signs including decreased appetite, increased vocalization, pacing, and aggression.  

So, how can you help a grieving bird? Providing your bird with time and space, extra attention, and other sources of comfort and security can go a long way in helping them cope with the loss. Creating a safe, comfortable environment for your bird, giving them time to adjust to the changes in the home, and providing extra enrichment activities can help keep them entertained and distracted. Finally, speaking to your veterinarian about potential medications or supplements that may help your bird cope with stress and anxiety can be beneficial. 

Do Bird's Get Sad When Another Bird Dies?

The loss of another bird can affect a bird in different ways depending on the relationship they shared. Studies have shown that birds that form strong bonds with their flockmates may show signs of distress or depression when one of their flockmates passes away. The behavior of the other birds in the flock may also change as they adjust to life without their missing companion.  

The loss of a companion in a domestic situation can leave a bird very sad. They have lost their sense of security and safety, making the experience very emotionally draining. During this time, birds' routines might change and they may act differently. Just like humans, they'll need extra support. Providing comfort to a grieving bird involves making sure they eat and drink normally, and talking in a gentle voice. Make sure their cage is in a safe, comfortable area and spend more time with them socially. 

Do Bird's Get Sad When Someone Leaves The Family Home?

Yes, birds can get sad when someone leaves the family home. Losing a family member can be traumatic for any bird, especially if that person was their main caretaker. Birds may exhibit signs of depression or anxiety when someone they are close to leaves the family home. 

If you know that a cherished family member will be moving out, such as during a divorce or when your child goes off to college, it is important to prepare your bird ahead of time. One thing that you can do is to make audio recordings and videos of that person so your bird will always hear their voice and even see them. That can bring your bird a lot of comforts. Additionally, plan on getting some new toys, or new routines to keep your bird occupied and enriched during the transition. 

The death of a loved one can be just as traumatic for your bird as it is for the rest of the family. A loss like this should be handled with patience and compassion. Create a comfortable environment by keeping noise levels low, providing plenty of food and water, and spending extra time with your feathered friend to help provide emotional support.  

Establishing a routine is also an important factor in helping a grieving bird recover - providing set meal times, regular activities, and playing music or providing mental stimulation can go a long way in making the recovery process easier. Birds take in our emotions so if you are completely grief-stricken, your bird will get more depressed and stressed, as well. If possible, set aside a special spot where only positive energy can enter - such as enjoying mealtime or a simple morning routine together. You'll bring each other comfort.

Lastly, consult with an experienced bird behaviorist for additional advice on how to help a grieving bird - as every species has unique needs and behaviors. 

Do Bird's Get Sad When They Are Rehomed?

When a bird is rehomed, it can be very stressful for them. This can be true even if the previous home was neglectful or worse. The stress hormones in their brain may not quickly re-stabilize following a big life change such as a move to a new home. It's important to be aware of the potential for mourning or distress when a bird is rehomed, and to take steps to help them adjust to their new environment.  

One way to help a grieving bird adjust is to create a safe and secure space for them in their new home. This should include things like familiar perches, toys, and any other items that will help them feel comfortable and safe. It is also important to provide mild mental stimulation for them, such as providing foraging toys or teaching them tricks or commands. Allowing your bird time to explore their new environment on their own terms is also important. 

It is also important to be patient with a newly rehomed bird. Give them plenty of time to get used to you and to their new environment. Don't rush the process, and give them time to settle in before addressing behavioral concerns. Showing them love and respect will help them to learn to trust you and eventually come out of their shell. Finally, it is important to stay positive during the rehoming process and make sure that the bird has access to regular healthcare and proper nutrition.  

By taking these steps, you can help your newly rehomed bird recover from grief and start enjoying life in their new home. If you want to learn more about helping a rehomed bird gain trust, please see my blog post.XXXX 

In Conclusion

The process of mourning in birds is still being studied and the effects of grief can be complicated. However, it is clear that bird's are capable of feeling sadness, stress, and anxiety when another bird dies or a family member leaves the home. As an owner, it is important to recognize signs of mourning and take steps to help your bird recover. There are some effective ways to help a grieving bird, such as providing an environment with low-stress activities, avoiding loud noise and sudden changes, introducing a new companion bird if appropriate, providing comforting touches, and providing plenty of time for rest and relaxation. With a little patience and understanding, you can help your bird heal and recover from any losses they may have experienced. 

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Diane Burroughs, LCSW is a licensed psychotherapist trained in ABA therapy techniques. She specializes in avian anxiety disorders and is certified in Nutrition For Mental Health. Diane has written a number of bird behavior books and she offers behavior consultations. She's developed a range of UnRuffledRx Science-backed Parrot Wellness Supplies.

Diane's products have been featured in the Journal of Avian Medicine and Surgery and at Exoticscon, a conference for exotic pet veterinarians. Her bird collars & supplements are stocked in avian vet clinics and bird stores throughout the US. With over 30 years in the field of behavior, Diane has created thousands of successful individualized behavior plans that help pets thrive.

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